How to be a good babysitter What are the duties of a nanny at home and how much does her work cost How to get a job as a nanny without experience

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In today's world, more and more parents are turning to nannies to look after their children while they are at work. Luckily, babysitting is one of the most successful careers available to anyone, even though it is one of the most difficult. ""It is important to remember that you will be raising someone else's child(ren), so you must be very aware of the requirements provided by the parents.""

Steps

Find a good family! This is the most important step and often the most difficult. Despite the fact that, at first glance, it seems simple enough, finding a family nanny can be a real challenge. When choosing a family, you must remember that your value system does not conflict with the values ​​​​of the family (maybe the family you have chosen is very religious, while you are not? Do your parents smoke and drink too much, or do you not like it?) and whether they will treat you more as an equal partner than a subordinate.

Make sure you work with children of the right age! Not everyone will be able to work with infants or toddlers or teenagers. There are clear differences between children of different age groups, with such different needs, and you may find it easier to work with one or two groups, but not all at once.

Learn to cook. Working with children often involves preparing simple meals and light snacks, so a basic knowledge of food preparation is required to be a competent babysitter. It's not a bad idea, if the kids are the right age, to start cooking with them. It will be a fun activity for both you and them!

Know how to discipline your child the right way. As a rule, children are mischievous, and it is your job as a nanny to take appropriate disciplinary action. Remember that there are no bad kids - they just don't always know the right thing to do and so they need your help to learn how to make the right decisions. Start with warnings. Warn them once, letting them know what will happen if they don't follow your instructions. Warn them again, more forcefully, and tell them that next time if they disobey you will have to punish them. Finally, punish the child for being naughty - for younger children, time outs are a good option, and also remove any irritant that is causing the naughty from sight. Make sure the length of the timeouts/disappearance is appropriate for the severity of the insubordination. For older children, loss of privilege or "time outs" in their room also lends itself well to punishment.

Chat with kids! Play with them. Find activities that match their interests. Find a fun and creative activity to keep them learning while they play. Take them for a walk, a park or a museum. Make them physically active and then go home and read a book. Help them learn difficult things. Make sure you speak to your child in their language.

Discuss your activities with your parents daily. Your employers want to know what their children are up to, so be sure to tell them everything about their child/their accomplishments, as well as any funny things that have happened to you and difficulties you have experienced while working with children. Create a picture of what their children do during the day, outside of their parental scope.

1. Remember, for now, they are your children! Love them. Be proud of him. Give them a reason to look forward to your arrival. Make sure they know that even if you gave them a timeout or didn't let them watch TV, you still care about them and want the best for them. Help them explore the world, toughen them through hardships, and celebrate their successes. Be childish, talk to them like adults, because they understand much more than you can imagine.

   Depending on the age of the children, you should choose an appropriate curriculum that is both educational and entertaining. Science and craft projects, simple cooking recipes, whatever interests them, and let them feel that by completing this or that activity, they have mastered and achieved something important.

   • It will be very helpful for young children to build a chart to keep track of their progress. Try making a sticker chart - give them a sticker when they do their homework, after nap time, or when they read books during the day, etc. It gives them the motivation to get the job done, it gives them inspiration to make your job easier, even on days when the kids don't want to work. Give them an encouragement - after a whole month of work, after each collection of 50 stickers, after they have completed all the requirements of the chart, give them something special. Change up your routine, cook something delicious with them, take them on a special outing or buy them a little toy. Trust me, it really helps to get them to do the right thing without any fuss or mess!
   • Let older children feel independent. They don't want a babysitter, so don't be a babysitter - be their friend, helper, watchful eye, but as long as they behave well or do what is required of them, give them some independence.
   • When siblings argue about "who did what" remember to listen equally to both sides and make a reasonable fair decision, children often feel frustrated if their needs are ignored.

   Warnings

   • Remember to clean up after yourself and your children. Parents do not want to come home where there is a mess.
   • Respect your parents' decisions. It is their choice to bring up their children as they please, and although recommendations can of course be made, if they want their children to grow up in a certain environment, then such conditions must be provided to the best of your ability. If you find that you cannot meet the requirements, you may need to find another family.
   • NEVER let your kids out of your sight. They can run away and disappear before you know it, so always be on the lookout.
   • Don't fall into the TV trap. It is very easy to seat them in front of a TV screen, but in the long run, it will be detrimental to the children and to you, because the TV will make them irritable and overly excited.
   • Learn first aid and artificial respiration skills. We must be ready for this at any moment.
   • Always have a phone, a bottle of water, and a small first aid kit handy. Children, especially small ones, are very accident prone, so bandages and a bottle of water can be a lifesaver.

Every family with a small child must have repeatedly faced and will face a common problem more than once: parents need to go somewhere, and there is no one to leave the baby with. After all, not everyone has relatives who have enough free time, who live nearby and who can help in such a situation. Yes, even if there is, it is one thing to ask for help periodically, and quite another to regularly burden other people. And if the child is still quite small - even more so.

It is in such cases that one has to resort to the help of a nanny at home.

IMMEDIATELY NOTE: all the information and data below may vary, depending on many factors, which we will discuss separately.

How to become a nanny

Surely many people the word "nanny" evokes persistent associations with a middle-aged or elderly woman who has a medical or . In principle, this is a fairly true and often appropriate description - for the most part, it is women of age who love children and have experience working with them.

What do you need to know and be able to work as a nanny?

This question can have several very different answers, which directly depend on a number of factors.

Age and gender of the child who needs a nanny

Usually the age of your "wards" is from 3 to 12 years. Younger - the mother is on maternity leave, and she is unlikely to agree to entrust her baby to a stranger. Older - the child is already more or less independent, and can cope with household chores without adult supervision. Although there are exceptions when you can be offered care for a two-year-old baby, or vice versa - to look after a 14-year-old.

Naturally, the younger the child, the more work the nanny will have to do. The most difficult “direction” is children under 3-4 years old(although baby nannies are not hired very often, and the selection in this category is quite strict). In this case, be prepared for what is required of you:

Relevant Education- pedagogical or medical, and better - both.

Have references from previous employers, and the more detailed and more, the better. Often they are asked to give the phone number of one of them in order to personally communicate and find out their opinion about the person.

1. Ability to take care of a child- be prepared for the fact that you, quite possibly, will have to cook the child (and not scrambled eggs or a sandwich!), put him to bed, entertain the baby (which in fact can also be a difficult task), change diapers.
2. Ability to provide first aid(even if you don't have a medical background). Imagine the situation: the parents left their child in your care and left on business until the evening. And the kid, playing, fell and broke his knee, for example. And now imagine how his mother will react if she comes home and sees that her child has a cut, is bleeding, and you do not know what to do. And this is still the easiest example, because restless children can get much more serious injuries!

The following “age” category has its own problems and differences - preschoolers and elementary school students - from 3 to 8 years. At this age, the child is growing rapidly, already knows how to speak and express his thoughts and desires, the formation of character begins, so a few more points are added to the requirements described above:

Ability to get along with the child. Often this factor can be decisive, even if you brought a plump pile of positive reviews to your parents, worked in a kindergarten for 15 years, you know how to care for children, but you couldn’t find a common language with the child and he doesn’t want to stay with you - there’s nothing you can do it, and many parents may start looking for another nanny just because of this.

1. Ability to entertain a child. In principle, the least problems arise with this item - a child from 3 to 8 years old plays a wide variety of games with pleasure, the main thing is to take a direct part in them and carefully monitor so that the baby does not get hurt.
2. Ability to teach. It is at this age that the child learns a huge amount of information about the world around him. Therefore, your duties, quite possibly, will include his training. Usually this is the most necessary minimum: reading, memorizing poetry, learning the alphabet, numbers, basic mathematics, learning new words and the simplest foundations of our world. With this, in principle, problems also almost never arise.

The simplest category is children aged 8 to 12 (or older). At this age, you may well have to help him with his homework, but the primary secondary school program is quite simple and does not require special knowledge of pedagogy.

The duration of your work

Depending on the schedule and workload of parents, a nanny can be hired:

Irregularly, for a small amount of time (several hours). Usually in such cases, the child has someone to stay with, just for certain reasons (for example, the mother needs to be away on business), the help of a nanny was needed.

Regularly, for a small amount of time (for example, from Monday to Friday, from 17.00 to 18.00).

Regularly, for a large amount of time (for example, from Monday to Friday from 8.00 to 17.00, on weekends - for the whole day).

Constantly.

Depending on this, the requirements for your skills and abilities also change: the longer you stay with the child, the more you need to know and be able to.

With or without accommodation

Often, parents are looking for a nanny who will live in their family and take care of the child all the time. Usually this is a family with an above average income, living in a spacious private house in which you are allocated your own room. Getting to such a place is usually considered a great success, since the salary here is relatively high, and, in addition, you are provided with housing and food.

However, be prepared for the fact that in this case they will demand from you to the maximum, and there will be very little free time - you will have to spend it with your child. If you do not play or care, then make sure that he does not get hurt.

Having your own children

Very often (but what is often there - almost always!) Parents with a nanny among the first questions ask if she has her own children. A positive answer is a big plus, because it is a clear indicator that you know firsthand how to care for children.

Where and how to look for a job as a nanny?

In this regard, everything is exactly the same as with finding a job in any other profession. The Internet, newspaper ads and word of mouth come into play. By the way, very often parents prefer to look for a nanny for their child through their acquaintances and friends who have already used such services. That is why it is very important to always make a perfect impression and try to cope with your duties - it is quite possible that people can recommend you as a good candidate.

Another option for finding a job is with a domestic staffing company. Now there are many such firms, and their services are used by many families who do not have time to independently look for workers. However, in this case, be prepared for the fact that you will have to pay for the services of the agency (after all, in fact, this company is the same employment agency). This is usually done upon hiring. On the other hand, this option is good because you do not have to worry about finding an employer - the company's managers will take on this task.

How to get a job "from scratch"?

If you have never worked as a nanny, but want to try, your “start” will directly depend on your skills. For example, if you do not have a specialized education (pedagogy or medicine), and you do not have your own children, it is possible that it will take a long time to look for an employer. Usually, in such cases, nannies start with one-time calls for several hours - when parents urgently need to find a person who would sit with the child before they arrive in case of unplanned urgent matters.

The very process of finding such a job consists again in monitoring advertisements in newspapers and on the Internet. By the way, in recent years it is the World Wide Web that is much more convenient and relevant to use - more and more people post ads here, starting to completely forget that paper print publications still exist.

To search for jobs online, you can use:

1. Thematic groups in social networks. These can be both groups dedicated to work, and groups about family and children - there you can offer your services as a nanny. Post them on VKontaktefacebook,Odnoklassniki, update periodically - it is quite possible that this is where your first employers will find you.

Boards of free announcements in your city.

Job search sites.

Companies that provide services for hiring domestic staff.

It should be noted that In recent years, the demand for babysitting services has grown significantly - in many families, all adults work hard, there is practically no free time left, and you want to spend it in peace. If earlier nannies were hired for their children for the most part only by representatives of the wealthy class, now average families very often use such services.

Naturally, for the category of citizens with an average income, not only the qualifications of a nanny, but also the cost of her services, is of great importance. This is what makes it a little easier to “enter” the profession - of course, all parents want to provide an experienced and highly qualified nanny for their baby, but paying for her services is too expensive for many. And in such cases, it can become yours, of course, without experience, you can only ask for minimal amounts. Alternatively, if you are not in a critical financial situation, you can work for free for a while, for a good review.

Interview with the employer: what to expect?

So, you've made contact with a potential employer and set up an interview. It is on its results that the main question depends: will you get a job or continue your search. Usually parents try to arrange a meeting with a nanny in the presence of their child (even if he is not yet old enough to talk to you). Attention is usually paid to the following:

your appearance. He can always play a decisive role in everything. Yes, you yourself should understand this very well - no one will entrust their child to you if you are unkemptly dressed, do not take care of yourself, have an unhealthy appearance, and so on. So in front of the child's parents, you should always (ALWAYS, and not just at the first meeting!) Look perfect and impeccable.

Your portfolio and your skills. You will definitely be asked about education, about your children, about your experience. Almost always ask about the ability to provide first aid.

If the employer liked you outwardly and was satisfied with your track record and experience, further questions can be very different.

You may be offered to hold the child in your arms (if he is not yet walking) - to see how well you are doing it.

You may be asked to talk with your child (with or without parents - it depends on them), if he is old enough for this.

You may be asked questions about how you would act in a given situation (the baby started crying, the baby looks unwell, the baby looks upset, and so on).

The list of questions here depends entirely on the parents and on how long they hire you. It is unlikely that you will be asked if you can explain the multiplication table to your child if you just need to sit with him once for a couple of hours.

Labor process: what will the future nanny have to do?

Usually the list of tasks and boundaries of responsibility are determined by the child's parents. Sample information is provided below.

For long term work

With long-term employment (for example, if you live in a family and are in their house all the time), in fact, a nanny is a person who temporarily replaces the child's mother. Therefore, you have to completely and completely take over its "functions" and concerns. Feeding, dressing, grooming, health care, learning assistance or learning itself, cooking, playing and entertaining - you will have to do everything that parents would do.

When working regularly (for example, 2 hours every day, except weekends)

In this case, the list of your duties will most likely be about the same, but you will not always have to fulfill them. For example, you pick up a child from a kindergarten, where he was recently well fed, and you will not have to cook food for him until the parents arrive.

In general, with short-term, but regular work, your main task will not be to let the child get bored. Games, reading, watching cartoons, maybe studying or doing homework together.

For occasional occasional work

As mentioned above, a “nanny for an hour” is usually hired by people who urgently and unscheduledly need to leave a child with someone. In this case, your task will simply be to sit with the baby, not letting him get bored (playing and so on). Cooking is usually not required in this case, the maximum is to warm up, pour and feed.

For novice nannies, this is the most suitable job - this is a great way to smoothly earn experience without starting serious tasks right away.

Nanny salary

To begin with, I would like to discuss the process of remuneration itself.

If you work through a recruitment agency - the work will be formalized. You will receive a "white" salary with taxes deducted and you will be credited with seniority. Every question and every detail of your work will be specified in the contract - so in which case you will be able to protect your interests, counting on documentary confirmation of your words. This option is good in cases where you have a long-term job option, but with strangers. And, as practice shows, even with a long-known family, it is still better to conclude a contract in advance. Be sure to indicate in it the duration of work (it is best to conclude a contract not for several years, but for a short period of time - several months or a year), your direct duties, your responsibility, various emergency situations, sick leave, weekends and holidays. As for one-time and short-term work - here contracts are practically not concluded, and the nanny receives a salary “in an envelope”. On the one hand, it is better - you do not have to pay taxes. On the other hand, it is worse: seniority is not accrued, and all the conditions of your work are stipulated in words, and in a difficult situation you will not be able to confirm them in any way.

The amount of wages. Specific amounts relevant for 2015

Major cities of Russia

1. Work with permanent accommodation and meals in a country house. Permanent care (learning assistance, feeding, daily walks around the site, games) and monitoring of a 4-year-old child: 35,000 - 40,000 rubles (with a contract).
2. Work for 2 hours (17.00 - 19.00) from Monday to Friday. Pick up from kindergarten and bring home a 5-year-old child, change clothes, feed, help with homework: about 7,000 rubles.

One-time "call": hourly, depending on the qualifications of the nanny and working conditions. Minimum - 100 rubles per hour. On average - about 150-200 rubles per hour.

Kyiv, Ukraine)

The same conditions: 35,000 - 40,000 rubles.

The same conditions: 7,000 - 9,000 rubles.

The same conditions: on average - about 200 rubles per hour.

Naturally, the salary of a nanny directly depends on her qualifications. If you are an experienced teacher and have a medical education, raised two of your children and you have a lot of positive feedback, you are unlikely to agree to work for 10,000 rubles. It all depends on the working conditions:

If the employer provides you with housing and meals (as in the case of settling in your own home), the salary itself will be slightly less than the usual payment for the same tasks.

If your responsibility will include additional tasks (for example, medical procedures for a child or tutoring in English), you can count on an additional payment (although not too much).

You can also ask for a surcharge for an unplanned call (for example, you have agreed on the terms and time of work, but they call you and ask you to babysit right now).

Moscow

The cost of babysitting services at home in Moscow varies from 40 to 90 thousand rubles per month. Often here, for a good salary, they are looking not quite for a nanny, but for a governess, whose main task is to teach children languages.

The specifics of Moscow are such that even wealthy women from a solid middle class - assistants to the head, heads of departments, TV presenters with a salary of 120-180 thousand rubles a month will not pay 80-90 thousand rubles to a nanny. If a Muscovite does not leave herself at least twice as much as she pays the nanny, she simply will not go to work. As a rule, such clients are looking for women from the regions, and preferably Ukrainians, Belarusians, in order to pay less.

Thus, almost all nanny vacancies in Moscow with a salary of 80-90 thousand rubles a month generate so-called " Rublev's wives". This means that you will communicate with the child under the vigilant supervision of a non-working mother, often these are ladies with character with all the ensuing consequences.

Your task here is to free the young mother from the annoying child so that she can safely browse new shoe catalogs or do other important things. Naturally, such a salary implies good recommendations (preferably from other wives of rich and influential people from the same buried cottage village), impeccable appearance, pedagogical and medical diplomas and perfect knowledge of 1-2 foreign languages. No, Ukrainian does not count.

On the pros and cons of babysitting

The advantages of such work include :

Work with children. If you love children and know how to find a common language with them, this is just an ideal profession for you.

With proper qualifications - job well paid.

If you have worked as an educator or doctor and retired, this is one of the few promising options to continue doing what you love.

The work is not the most difficult(of course, if you're lucky with a child - an overly restless and capricious kid can turn your work into a real horror).

If you work from home (with accommodation and meals in the family) in You immediately solve the two most important problems - with housing and buying groceries(Yes, and such work is paid very well).

However, there are also disadvantages :

Find a permanent and stable job It is not so easy for beginner nannies.

Not uncommon conflicts with parents(for example, any loss in the house can be written off to your account).

It is possible that in your "ward" will not have the most pleasant character.

Enough serious responsibility and not only material.

When working with homestay, your vacation will depend on the schedule of the child's day.

The specialist tells

IQ Review spoke with Denis, who has worked with children for a long time (yes, there are male nannies).

How to get a "promotion"?

Increases in wages can be achieved in the same way as in any other “position”: gain experience and expand the range of your services. For example, you can learn English and study it with your child for an additional fee. The same goes for playing musical instruments, learning other languages, basic school subjects, and so on.

Also, always try to find a common language with the child and do everything possible so that he has a fun and interesting time. It is unlikely that parents will want to call you again if after the arrival they find the child bored or sad - so read and learn various fun games and fun.

Basic tips for beginners

Summing up, we can highlight a number of tips that will help you become an ideal and highly paid nanny and avoid common problems:

1. Look for work in all ways: on the Internet, in newspapers, among acquaintances and friends.

2. Come to the interview fully equipped. An impeccable appearance, a prepared speech about one's own merits, a few affectionate and friendly phrases addressed to the baby will significantly increase your chances.

3. Be sure to learn at least the basic principles of first aid.

4. Learn to understand baby food.

5. When working with strangers, it is better to conclude an employment contract in which all conditions must be clearly indicated.

6. Before agreeing to work, talk to the baby (even if the parents themselves did not offer this).

7. Before agreeing to work, find out from the parents the state of health (including psychological) of the baby, the presence of deviations, pathologies, diseases, and allergies.

8. Before you start work, invite your parents to remove all precious things and money before you arrive, so that later you can not be “framed” and accused of stealing.

9. Find out from the parents what their child likes, what they are afraid of, what they are interested in.

10. Find out the same thing again, only from the child.

11. Always support all the undertakings and games of the baby.

12. Be modern: watch new cartoons together, play onXboxorPS,learn to draw together on a tablet or play the electric guitar - both the child and his parents will appreciate it.

13. Study subjects that may be useful to the child (foreign languages, history, singing, playing musical instruments, the basics of psychology and sociology).

14. Learn different facts that your child might be interested in so you can tell him something about what he likes.

15. Always be friendly with your child.

16. Report the slightest problems (a cut finger or a bad mood from a deuce at school) to your parents (although this advice may not be suitable for those who work and live in a family - such “denunciations” can ruin your relationship with your child, so here you have to look at the situation).

Nanny Mary Poppins is looking for a job! Intermediaries, please disturb!

Hello! I am 25 years old, I am a teacher by education, I have a good experience in school. I want to find a job as a nanny in Moscow. I turned to one agency for hiring domestic staff. There they took a lot of money from me: for entering the questionnaire into the database, for compiling a resume, for selecting a vacancy. A total of 1600 rubles ran up. Separately, I paid for medical tests - about $100 more. I had several interviews with potential owners, but no one chose me. The reason is that I am not a Muscovite, I came from Moldova, and besides, I am too young.
I think the agency lied to me. Why did they take money if, according to them, I have little chance of finding a job? But the agency said that this is how all intermediaries work: “this is Moscow, here even a pimple won’t jump up for free.”
Please help me understand - does it make sense for me to apply to agencies? And how can you protect yourself from being scammed?
Maria
This letter came to the editorial office of the newspaper Work for You in Rostov-on-Don

Dmitry SOLODKIY, director of the recruitment agency for the selection of nannies, answers

Prime_Home_Staff (Moscow, St. Petersburg)

How to get a nanny through an agency

Unfortunately, such a situation is not uncommon for Moscow; there are enough unscrupulous intermediaries in the capital. However, there are many more honest agencies! Let's talk about the specifics of employment for a vacancy for a nanny in a family.

Requirements for applicants

Let's start with the pleasant - with the salary. The hourly payment for babysitting services in the capital is 120-200 rubles per hour. With a daily payment, the nanny receives 1000-2000 rubles per day. Accordingly, the monthly salary ranges from 25,000 to 50,000 rubles.
In this case, the employer makes the following requirements for the nanny:
* a woman between the ages of 30 and 50 (there are times when a male tutor is hired for a boy);
* medical (for infants up to a year) or pedagogical education;
* experience working with children;
* permanent Moscow or Moscow region registration is preferable.

Lyudmila is 25 years old, but this is not a reason to despair. The experience of communicating with children for a nanny is more important than age. Yes, non-residents, and even more so “non-citizens” of Russia, are in much less demand than “locals”. But if we are talking about work with accommodation (and this is about 20% of vacancies), then here, of course, your chances increase, because Muscovites rarely agree to such conditions.
For live-in nanny, parents provide a separate room. Many parents prefer to take a nanny with them on vacation, including abroad, so take care of your passport in advance.

Nanny Selection

The task of the nanny agency is to find a nanny who would meet all the requirements of the parents as much as possible. How are candidates selected?
This is a rather laborious process, it includes several stages:
- preliminary negotiations with applicants by phone;
- Filling in the questionnaire by the nanny at the agency;
- conducting a structured interview with the nanny, sometimes psychological testing;
- verification of recommendations from previous jobs, professional analysis of information about the candidate.
It is quite difficult for the parents of the child to do such work on their own. The agency presents them with several nannies to choose from, employers interview each candidate and make the final selection.
Usually the nanny is asked to come to work for a test for 2-3 days. An important point: these days are payable, even if the employer does not leave the nanny for a permanent job!

Formation of relations

A contract for the provision of services is concluded between the employers and the agency. For the selection of a nanny, clients pay 70-100% of the average monthly salary of an employee.
Under an agreement with the agency, the employer can demand a free replacement of a nanny for a child during the "warranty period" (usually 3 months). In this case, the nanny does not have to be guilty, it is enough to indicate such a reason as psychological incompatibility.
It is safer to search for domestic staff with the help of recruiters. The matter is that agencies exchange among themselves "black lists" of the nannies who have made a mistake. And for those who landed on this list, there is nothing left but to look for work by posting ads on poles, or through acquaintances.
On the other hand, it is also beneficial for applicants to cooperate with the agency. The agency helps to draw up a contract (labor agreement) between the parents and the nanny, which specifies all the working conditions: main duties, schedule, payment procedure, as well as the responsibility of the parties. If you settle down "on parole", then be prepared for unpleasant surprises. For example, you may be forced to cook dinner for the whole family and clean the apartment.

References and documents

Because people trust their nanny with their most precious possessions, they want to keep themselves safe. First of all, parents are interested in written recommendations from previous employers. So be sure to stock up on letters of recommendation. They must indicate:
- work period,
- duties (“full child care”, “cooking”, “walking”),
- achievements (“taught the child to the potty”),
- the reason why the nanny left the family (“employer’s departure abroad”, “the child went to the garden”),
- contact information.
Parents also require medical certificates from the employee: from a therapist, from a tuberculosis dispensary, from a psychoneurological dispensary, about donating blood for the Wasserman reaction and HIV. Naturally, all costs are borne by the applicant.
Often parents are asked to provide a certificate from the police - that the nanny is not wanted for the offenses committed.

Pay or not?

If intermediaries offer you to pay for employment, contact other agencies. There are offices in the capital that do not take money from applicants (including ours)!
But even if you agree to pay for intermediary services, remember that the settlement must be made after you receive your first salary. If “extortion” begins right from the threshold, it is better to immediately turn around and leave.
Another tip: carefully study the contract with the agency. If something is not clear - ask questions. When the manager does not give a clear answer, do not rush to sign documents. It happens that the “necessity” to pay is skillfully “hidden” behind sophisticated legal formulations.

When inviting a nanny to your home, you need to understand exactly what you expect from her. After all, a strange woman who spends a lot of time with a baby has a great influence on him. And although each family has its own educational traditions, we have selected a few general rules for domestic staff. They will help to avoid conflicts with the nanny if you discuss them at the very beginning of your acquaintance.

Memo for the nanny

To ensure that the assistant clearly implements the recommendations, formulate your wishes in writing. Take a landscape sheet and divide it into two columns. In the first, describe her immediate duties, and in the second - what is unacceptable in communicating with the child and parents. In advance, familiarize the future employee with the powers and restrictions. But remember: the conversation should be a dialogue, not a boring lecture. Discuss all issues, even the most, at first glance, insignificant. Listen to possible objections and try to come to a common denominator.

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What do we have to do?

1. Children need fresh air, so walk with your child every day, even in winter. Walk in strictly specified places, walk along pre-agreed routes. When crossing the road, take him by the hand.
2. If the baby sleeps during the walk, just sit on the bench with the stroller next to you. When he wakes up, talk about the world around him - dogs, birds, cars. Older children need to move, climb ladders, slide down slides.
3. Spend your free time on developing exercises and toys, excluding watching television programs and, moreover, computer games from the educational process.
4. Stop using cigarettes. If that doesn't work, wear clothes that don't smell like tobacco to meet your children.
5. Try hot food before feeding your baby. After asking your parents about allowed and prohibited foods, strictly follow the children's diet. Avoid buying sweets and ice cream.
6. By personal example, instill in pupils a love of good manners, order and accuracy. Keep track of the cleanliness of hands (your own and children), shoes, clothes, strollers, bicycles.
7. Criticize only actions, not the child himself. In dealing with him, show patience, consistency and confidence. Limit only those activities that are dangerous to his health, along the way explaining the cause of the danger.
8. Remember where the first aid kit is located in order to be able to provide emergency assistance to the child. If he is ill, then call the doctor and contact the parents.
9. Open doors to familiar people, and best of all - only to mom, dad, grandparents. Stay connected: answer the phone, call yourself in case of an emergency.
10. Speak in a normal, understandable language for the child, avoiding lisping, invented, rude and slang words. Call him by his first name, not by his house nickname.

What can't be done?

1. Do not yell at children, even if they are naughty. Do you want to be heard? Approach the child, go down to the level of his eyes, smile and pay attention to yourself.
2. Never punish physically - slaps, cuffs and slaps are excluded. Specify what disciplinary measures are applied in the family.
3. Do not share details of employers' personal lives, discuss their level of well-being, or offer advice or judgment on their behavior. Do not invite your friends and relatives to the apartment.
4. Do not solve your problems during working hours: do not go shopping during a walk, do not talk on a cell phone for a long time. Or talk honestly with "bosses" if you need a little time for some business.
5. Do not use negative epithets in relation to household members. Even veiled: “Grandma does not feed, she became transparent from hunger. I'll feed you myself", “Again, my sister offended me, let me caress you”, “We had so much fun, and mommy came and ruined everything”.
6. Keep children away from the stove and electrical appliances in the kitchen. Be sure to place pans and pots on the far burner. Don't cook food while holding your baby.
7. Do not promote your political or religious views (about God and God's punishment) - do not forget the saying about someone else's monastery. Don't talk to preschoolers about death and sex. Don't tell a girl that men prefer beautiful women.
8. Do not take the initiative in the use of early development techniques and the latest systems of hardening or massage. Follow agreed procedures, approved games and activities.
9. Do not force the ward to share toys in the sandbox. He can manage his own things on his own, just invite him to play with other kids together.

So, the nanny has a lot to do with how your child grows up. Encourage her to follow the above rules by adding to the list those that apply to your household. Brainstorm once a month to discuss any issues related to childcare, educational moments. Make changes as necessary and establish new principles accordingly.

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