How to make your husband give gifts. How to make your husband give flowers for no reason? Why men don't want to give gifts

One of the most popular questions in my trainings: how to motivate / get a man to give me gifts? And, as a rule, this topic is of interest not only to conditional women with low self-esteem. Most often, the question is asked by successful, beautiful, charismatic and very wealthy girls.

There is a theory according to which the main motivator for men to spend money on a woman is interest in her and the desire to win. Girls consider material investments in them as a so-called indicator of the degree of his interest in the object of desire. This interest is especially strong during courtship - seeking a woman, a man creates an atmosphere with gifts, surprises and special attention. At the same time, for some men, this manner turns into a way of life, while others, even in the "candy-bouquet" period, get off with formal displays of attention.

Men love to give gifts. Everything. Some until a certain moment, until someone of the female sex before you teaches them how not to do this (for example, by their ingratitude for attention and care. By the way, sometimes mothers teach their sons not to give gifts under various pretexts, but this is not about that now )

I was interested to know what Belarusian men think about this. Most of my friends decided to remain silent and only two of them wrote openly, and one comment came in private messages. I share it with you, tk. in my opinion, the motivation of a particular man who loves his wife and wants to please her is described in great detail and competently:

“More often than on occasions, I give gifts just like that. Not even gifts in the traditional sense of the word, but something simply pleasant and unexpected (a bunch of flowers from a grandmother from the passage, a favorite magazine that I forgot to buy, etc.), and therefore evokes sincere emotions of joy. And empirically it was noticed that the kiss at this moment is the most special. To do something pleasant to a loved one, and from an unexpected gift the joy is many times greater than from the expected one. Later it will come back to me, possibly in a different form, and the circle of exchange will close. "

Akhmatov's sacramental "How many requests a loved one always has, a lover does not have requests" does not always work in our life - sometimes even loved ones, under certain circumstances, do not receive generosity from their men as one of the manifestations of attention. And after the girls, considering themselves unnecessary / underestimated, leave the "stingy" gentlemen (please pay attention to the quotes), they ask their friends: "What's wrong?" Or another common theme: “She only needs money from me,” so they don’t spend at all.

There is a theory that gifts are one of the ways of communication or the so-called love languages, and if a man does not give gifts, it should not be attributed to circumstances such as low income.

It is wrong to believe that wealthy men are generally generous - rather, wise women put more effort into the process of receiving benefits from a wealthy man. If a man is stingy and ascetic towards you, then one of the important communicative moments of your relationship has been missed. But this gap can be easily restored at many trainings, such as, for example, "The man of my dreams."

5 simple rules will help you establish the gift giving process in relation to yourself.

1. Learn to receive gifts

Are you surprised? In personal consultations, most women tell me stories of receiving gifts that make me feel uncomfortable! The science of accepting gifts is available to everyone, but only a wise girl can master it, because gifts are a way of communication. And any art of communication is an art to learn it.

By giving a gift, a man subconsciously expects to receive a certain reaction. If in response a man hears "oh, what are you, why was it necessary to spend money!" or “don’t give me flowers - it’s impractical,” a negative story associated with the donation process will be fixed in his subconscious, even if you wanted to take care of him in this way and even if he understands it. Gratitude should be generous too! In response to any, even insignificant, gift, learn to express positive emotions. And it’s better if it’s sincere. Otherwise, one day you will notice how your man stopped giving you gifts.

A man will intuitively remember the emotions that he experiences from your reaction, he will feel strong and significant, and he will want to experience such emotions again.

2. Learn to receive gifts with dignity

Don't show that you are willing to be content with little. Women with low self-esteem rarely attract men, and excessive shyness scares them off no less than manifestations of an aggressive material principle. If you come to a restaurant with a wealthy man, you should not order a glass of water - this will only harm yourself. You yourself must believe that you deserve the best gift, and therefore accept what you are offered with gratitude and dignity.

It also doesn't mean that you need to choose the most expensive dish on the menu and order. Men feel calculated. Just be yourself and allow yourself to enjoy life in the company of a pleasant or loved man. Order something that really pleases you. And your man will definitely see this by your reaction.

3. Ask for a gift at the right time

Sometimes a man doesn't even know that you want something. The main thing, remember, is important to ask for a gift at the right moment. Do not do this when a man comes home tired from work or is in a state of stress. But if he is in a good mood, catch this note and ask for a gift. He will be pleased to do something good for you. Most importantly, remember point 1. This is the most important thing.

Provoke a man for a gift not with direct requests, but with your remarks: "What a beautiful dress!" or "I always dreamed of going there!" Gently but not overly admiration for the gifts of friends from their fans, as well as positive appreciation of the generosity of other men, without damaging the self-esteem of your chosen one, are also perfectly acceptable. Hints are the main tool of a wise woman.

4. Do not accept gifts too greedy and aggressive.

Gluttony in the eyes of a woman will frighten off a man who may decide that she sees in him only a resource.

5. Don't Show Your Independence

Even if you are an absolute self-made and accomplished woman with a successful career, be proud of it without compromising your relationship. It is not worth emphasizing that you can afford everything that you get from a man. Also, you do not need to immediately give the man a return gift - by doing this you deprive him of the sense of self-worth that he receives from the donation process.

But the main thing: no rules work if there are no emotions in the relationship. If a man is good with you, you provide him with comfort and give a feeling of harmony, he will certainly want to be with you and pamper you!

Well, if you want to perfectly master the skills of effective communication with men, welcome to my training. See you in the new issues of my column!

Svetlana Zere - head of LADY.TUT.BY, master of happy changes, author of the best-selling training “

You expected that your husband would give you a diamond ring for the birth of your son, but he limited himself to a cheap cosmetic set. You spent a whole year saving money in order to spend a well-deserved vacation in the Maldives (or at least in Turkey), and as a result, you were forced to confine yourself to a house in the village.

In short, your man is saving on you as much as he can, and is not at all going to give you expensive gifts.

But such a situation can be radically changed, says the host of the cult show training "Actually, I am smart, but I live like a fool", the author of the book "A fool wants to meet two higher ones" Pavel RAKOV.

Everybody's Cash Case: Fighting Attitudes and Calculating the Curmudgeon

So, why do men give some women gifts, while others forget to congratulate even on their birthday?

Reciprocal rules... Many women explain this in a very mercantile way, believing that it is unprofitable for a man to give gifts. Vice versa! One of the human needs is to be useful. We all use each other. A bee is a flower, and that one is a bee. And there are a lot of such examples in nature.

We all need each other for mutual use. And the more a man invests in a woman of effort, time, money, the more he gets in return.

Over the years, I tracked the stories of stingy men - everyone ended up badly. It is surprising that those men who gave women more than 10% of their earnings seemed to be buying themselves a fortune.

The more a man invests in gifts for women, the more he earns.

Programming laws. But sometimes a woman herself does not want to receive gifts. And the reasons for such psychological attitudes should be sought in childhood.

Some parents instilled in their children: "I give a gift, and you do something for it." When a girl becomes an adult, she does not want to receive gifts, because they will have to work off.

Or the gift is accompanied by a reproach: "I gave it to you, and you are so ungrateful." And she’s postponed: it’s better not to receive anything, so as not to be “ungrateful” later.

It happens when the desire to receive gifts is discouraged by simple ridicule. "Look, you can't live without this gift, as some kind of flawed one." And in childhood everyone goes through a period of contradiction: “I can't live without a gift? I don’t need your handouts. ” And one more negative program remains for life.

Sometimes there are several such installations, which can be very difficult to remove.

Pathological greedy. They are found among all social strata. But more often than not, men are stingy with gifts due to a simple lack of money. Even if there is cash today, he is not sure that it will be tomorrow. That is, the point is not at all in female commercialism, but in male financial insolvency.

On the other hand, it is easy to be generous when there is nothing behind the soul. Such a gentleman can promise to throw the whole world at your feet. Do not fall for this bait, most likely he just bred you.

How to identify a curmudgeon:
... sets financial goals, is spinning, but cannot reach a higher level of income;
... often complains about others, accusing them of his financial failures, that he was robbed, framed, etc .;
... unsure of the future.

Test your beau's greed. While walking, tell him that you need to go to the store (but not to the pharmacy, otherwise he will decide that you need hygiene products). A normal man will be waiting for you at the checkout to pay for your purchase, and a greedy man will defiantly talk on the phone, ostensibly answering an urgent call.

Guess the wish: specific requests will help you get a gift

First, explain that you are a woman and love gifts. Giving a gift is a manifestation of a man's love, and receiving a gift is a willingness to accept it. The gift helps a woman to tune in to a romantic mood. And for a man, he can even strengthen his health: at the moments of realization, his testosterone increases and his tone rises.

Tell him: "Your gifts are proof of love, because everyone can say" I love you, and not everyone can prove their love. "

Know how to ask. Repeat the request several times to reinforce this skill. If, in principle, you are uncomfortable with such questions, do the following. Go outside and ask any man you meet to give you, for example, a bouquet of flowers. It doesn't matter if he rushes to the flower stand or just twists at his temple, it is important that you were able to speak it out.

How to properly ask for gifts:

Use special words that are pleasing to the male ear (please, you know best what I need, etc.);

Ask only in a good mood with a happy smile on your lips. Otherwise, your request will turn into a demand or a cry of despair;

Make eye contact. It is very difficult for a person to refuse by eye contact. It is easy to do it over the phone, but it is difficult to look into the eyes;

Be sexy and feminine - these are the main reasons that work effectively;

Come up with a reason. Many gifts are associated with the holidays: if you explain that you have a holiday today or tomorrow, the probability of receiving a gift will be higher.

Hint correctly. As you walk past a shoe store, ask to stop by for a minute and help you rate a pair of shoes you like. Further - a matter of technology. Your task is to try on shoes so feminine and erotic that he wants to look at it forever. Spin in front of him, then thank and say that you, of course, like the shoes, but you don’t have the money to buy them now - and leave the store so as not to create awkward pauses. On the same evening, you will have a new thing.

Concretize. The clearer you formulate your request, the easier it is to carry it out. To do this, you yourself need to clearly know what you want and not rely on the man's fantasy. Especially wealthy business people who value their time have no time to think about your needs.

Tell the man clearly what item you want and where it is sold.

If a man does not have free time to find the gift you want, tell me how much money you need to be happy, go to the store, return with a purchase and show it with a happy look, not forgetting to thank your beloved.

Refuse in advance ... from the gift. Hack it on your pretty nose: a man doesn't have to buy you anything at all. Ask him in such a mood that if he does not present you with what you want, then nothing terrible will happen. Then he will not feel your dependence on gifts. And it will raise your rating in his eyes.

You cannot demand, humiliate yourself and beg. Exude calm and confidence. They said calmly - and then let him worry.

Fix the result. It also happens - the man sincerely agrees, but the next day he forgets about everything. To prevent this from happening, as soon as the cherished "yes" flew from his lips, gently take his arm and, looking into his eyes, lead him towards the window.

Bringing gifts: how to get a scarlet flower, not a thistle

Let's say the request is voiced and even the man has heard. But how do you set him up to the right wavelength so that he buys you a bag from Chanel and not from a hardware store? A whole science is also required here.

Start small. Never give up small presents. Moreover, encourage men to do them and show your admiration in every possible way. For example, ask him to buy a chocolate bar. Having received it, be sure to admire his gallantry, let him taste the first bite. Do not forget to look erotically in the eyes while doing this.

If the man was satisfied, then next time you can ask for something more valuable.

Remember all his gifts and keep proof of their gift. Save the first movie ticket you visited together or a rose petal gifted in the winter cold. A photo taken while traveling together or the same check from a restaurant can bring back fond memories and become the trigger that will lead to buying new things.

Create difficulties. Remember how in the tale of the scarlet flower the merchant had to bring expensive gifts to his eldest daughters and a flower to the youngest. As a result, the difficulty of the location of the latter contributed to the brightness of fatherly feelings.

The more a man overcomes difficulties, the more reverently he relates to a woman.

Ask him to get the "scarlet flower". These can be inexpensive items made to order from materials brought from another corner of our planet.

Work to raise your status. The more expensive you look, the more worthy gifts men will give you. You have to throw cheap jeans and sweaters out of your wardrobe so that you don't get plush bunnies for birthdays.

Gifts will only match your status if your behavior matches your image.

The task of a woman is to learn how to spend a man's money beautifully

Any successful man can buy anything, but a woman is called to help him do it beautifully and unusually. Her task is to spend money so that the man gets pleasure from it. And here you should remember about the technical issues.

Benefit. Explain that the intended gift has a direct or indirect benefit. For example, a mink coat, which you dream of getting for your birthday, on summer days, when the festival is supposed to be, costs half as much as in severe frosts, when it will be worn.

Serving his values ​​may not be the easiest way to ask for gifts, but it promotes spiritual unity. So, say buying a suburban lot is a good investment. Having built a house on it, you can not only lead a healthy lifestyle, but also partially rent it out, which will allow you to recover the costs.

A man will always share your views if you are ready to serve his purposes.

Ask with a margin. For example, explain that by the time of your loved one you always have a delicious dinner on the table, you need a slow cooker. Perhaps during the conversation, he will suggest that you limit yourself to a food processor, but this will clearly be more than the whisk he bought himself for whipping proteins.

Accept credit cards. Remember a little psychological trick: it is easier for a man to part with a credit card than cash. Therefore, do not exclude this form of calculation.

Exchange fund: gratitude and compliments are accepted as a gift

Any rule implies an exception. With regard to gifts, the following applies: no gifts bought with their own money can be given to men. You don't want to become his mother, or what is worse, turn him into a gigolo? The most that you can do for him is to present a song, dance, romantic adventure. Hand-made things are allowed.

Let's compliment each other. Learn to compliment. It happens that men, after exquisite compliments addressed to them, want to thank them.

How to compliment professionally:

Compliment based on real facts, and for this, notice even the smallest achievements of your partner;

Admire the qualities of a man (successful, charismatic, strong, etc.).

Celebrate his achievements;

Sincerely admire his loved ones, while remembering: for one compliment said to a friend, make eight to your man, so as not to cause jealousy. Compliment his parents more often;

Delight in accessories that accentuate masculinity. Praise his car, apartment, house.

Be grateful. This is the most important thing to learn in order to receive gifts. When you feel grateful, there are biochemical processes that have the strongest attractive effect. And to feel gratitude before receiving a gift is the main task so that you always receive them throughout your life.

Gratitude can be compared to charity. Give gratitude to every man just like that, for free, without expecting to receive anything in return. And then your life will be filled with even brighter colors.

The exercise. Call all your ex-men and thank everyone for the pleasant minutes you spent with them. Give thanks for the life lessons they have taught you. And you will feel how your body is filled with vitality. This is gratitude.

One man happily makes gifts to his woman - expensive and tasteful. And the other is required to almost beg for them. What is it based on? How to make a man attentive?

Why Men Don't Give Gifts

First, let's look at the reasons why men do not give gifts:

You do not talk about your desires, you are not able to form them.

Often a similar situation happens if your soul mate is a practical person who does not believe that it is worth spending money on all sorts of little things that are gathering dust on the shelves and are not useful. So that this does not work, and not to waste money, he asks you what you want. And the girl is embarrassed to answer, to say what exactly she wants to receive.

And there are two ways of development. If a young man thinks that you need a certain and useful thing - a scarf, a frying pan, a bathroom cabinet, etc. - he gives it. And if he thinks that you have no special desires, then he makes the conclusion that you do not want anything. As a result, you will either receive what you will not call “a present from your beloved,” or he will not present you with anything.

Don't be afraid to say what you want. This is normal in terms of practicality.

You take everything for granted.

Women themselves kill the desire of men to make presents. She is either unhappy with any surprise, or indifferently considers the offering and pretends to condescend.

But your man tried, wasted time, energy. Money, after all, is to please you. , turned on fantasy, waited for you to light up with joy when you open the box. You make him feel annoyed and disappointed. By the way, people often behave in this way, who were taught at an early age that women should receive all gifts and compliments with an indifferent air. Something like: I know my worth, so be glad that you can give me gifts.

Few people enjoy meeting this kind of attitude all the time. At one point, they stop giving presents at all. And you are perplexed and offended. Learn to be happy, even trinkets and teddy bears. Play as a face, express joy and gratitude. People love if they can please someone. This increases their own importance.

You never give a present to a man.

If your soul mate does not make you presents or is limited only to holidays, then remember when you gave something to him yourself. One-sided play quickly gets boring, therefore, without receiving an answer, the young man will think that he is not important to you.

Certainly, if the people who need it, and not get it. But, according to statistics, there are very few of them. It is sometimes important even for very generous individuals to feel that their material and mental impulses will not go unanswered. As a result, not getting the return, the guy "burns out", he loses interest in pampering you.

Remember that harmony is important in relationships. Learn to give nice little things for your man, but not only on holidays, but also on ordinary days. Then he will have a gift for you.

How to get a man to give gifts

The opinion that wealthy men turn out to be generous is wrong. Rather, women have to work harder to receive a gift from such men. If the person is somewhat indifferent to you and stingy, then you have missed one of the most important elements of communication in your relationship. There are simple rules on how to get a man to give gifts and balance this balance:

learn to receive gifts. No matter how unoriginal it may sound, the ability to accept a gift is characteristic only of the wisest ladies. Gifts are a method of communication. If a man makes a present, then he expects to receive some kind of response at the subconscious level. If he hears something like: "It was not worth spending money," "Flowers are a stupid gift," then the subconscious mind will consolidate the negative story that is associated with the presentation of the gift. Even if you show such concern, and he understands it. You need to give thanks generously. In response to every, even small present, it is important to express positive emotions. In addition, express not only in words, but also in a good mood. This will be deposited in the man's memory, he will remember that your reaction was pleasant to him. This means that he will repeat the surprise again;
know how to receive gifts with dignity. Don't show that less is enough for you. Girls with low self-esteem rarely become attractive to men. And their excessive modesty will scare them off no less aggressiveness and greed. If you come to a restaurant with a wealthy companion, then you should not defiantly ask for a glass of water. It will only hurt you. Be sure that you deserve the best, and therefore accept his gift with gratitude;
do not beg for presents. There is no worse and more pitiful situation than begging for a gift. The meaning of donation is that it is a desire of one’s own will to please another. Otherwise, the balance is disturbed, and even with the correct reaction of the woman to the present, the man will not get the feelings that he experiences when he makes a surprise on his own initiative. Encourage action not with direct demands, but with small remarks like: “I always wanted to go there,” “Great dress,” etc. Correct hints are the main tool of wise girls;
no need to accept a present too greedily. Not only heightened shyness is unpleasant, but also greed, a desire to seize everything at once. If you first met in a restaurant, then do not immediately ask for everything expensive from the menu. And to the question: "What do you want to get for the holiday?" no need for diamonds;
do not flaunt independence. Even if you have made yourself, established yourself as a person, made a career, you should not take the pose of an equal partner. Do not emphasize that you yourself will buy everything. In addition, do not give a return present immediately. This deprives the man of his sense of significance.

In addition, in order to transparently hint to a man about your desire, look through catalogs with those items that you need with him. Show him the things that you like, sigh that you can't buy it. It is not worth asking and demanding, it is enough to give food for thought. A smart person will get it right.

In the store, show what you like. But don't cry over the fact that you can't buy it. It is enough to make a subtle hint to move the man to an "independent" decision.

But remember: no rule works if there are no feelings and emotions in your relationship. If a young man is pleased with you, you provide him with comfort and harmony, he will definitely do you something pleasant.

Even donated ten years ago. Even little things and trinkets. “Do you remember this bracelet? You gave it to me for our first anniversary! I like it so much, I would wear it every day! " - remember with these words all those gifts that your beloved has ever made you happy. If this is a piece of jewelry, wear it as often as possible, once again praising the choice of your man. If these are household items, use them regularly, study their functions, admire their convenience and quality. If this is a bouquet of flowers, take a picture of it (it seems to you that this is stupid, but believe me, the man will be pleased) and often remind your loved one how long the roses presented to him have not faded. It is important for a man to know that he was not mistaken with a gift, that his efforts were justified, his choice was appreciated - this will inspire him to buy even more expensive jewelry and luxurious bouquets.

One of the reasons why men do not give gifts is the lack of confidence in their own taste. Ask your loved one more often for advice when choosing a fragrance, underwear, jewelry, clothes, jeans. No, no, it is not necessary to drag him around boutiques and shopping centers - not every man can handle such a test. It is enough, as if, by the way, to take an interest in the opinion of a loved one, looking through an Internet catalog or a women's magazine: "What do you think, dear, would such a color suit me?" or "Which of these dresses do you think would look the best on me?" Even if the hint is too transparent, the man in this game will gladly play along with you. First, in this way you carefully inform him what exactly you would like to receive as a gift. And secondly, you will let him know that you value his taste highly, which means that he will be much more confident in choosing a surprise for you.

3. THANK AND ADVISE HIS GENERANCE

Even if generosity is not the strongest quality of your beloved, find a reason to thank him - if not for a gift, then for his attentive attitude, a desire to take care of you, the ability to listen, finally, for the washed dishes and for the fact that he did not forget to buy yours. favorite yoghurt variety in the store. Believe me, a man is inclined to show those qualities that you notice and encourage in him, even if they are not too peculiar to him. Regularly reproach your loved one for carelessness and greed - and you will get greed squared. Pay attention to how caring and generous he can be, and he wants to be that way for you.

4. GIVE GIFTS YOURSELF

The point here is not at all in the principle “you are for me - I for you” (he will probably harm you), but in the fact that by making pleasant surprises for your man, you are able to create a mood that will make him give gifts to you - a mood of intrigue , games, romance. This advice is especially relevant for relationships with experience, when gifts already seem to be something optional and obsolete, and even a bouquet of flowers seems to be an unnecessary waste of money. In order to surprise your loved one, you do not have to spend fantastic amounts, the main thing is the mood and atmosphere: leave spicy notes in the pockets of his business suit, order lunch for him with delivery to the office, plan a romantic weekend. And most importantly, do it all with pleasure. The joy of a pleasant surprise made for a loved one is extremely infectious - your man will certainly want to feel it himself and make a gift to you.

5. REFUSE THE MANIPULATION

Even the most generous and caring man will lose the desire to give you anything after frank manipulations in the spirit of “if you love me, buy me a fur coat”. At best, tired of your obsessive requests, the man will give up and buy what you insist on - however, this will no longer be a gift, but rather a payoff. At worst, you will have to forget about gifts. Inspiring surprises and pleasant expressions of concern is more difficult than annoyingly begging for what you want, but the result is worth it.

6. SINCERELY ENJOY GIFTS

If your loved one declares that you “enjoy gifts like a child” - do not hesitate: there will be more and more gifts. Every woman has a little girl whom a man in love endlessly likes to pamper - it is only important not to lose this childlike spontaneity. When you give a gift to a little girl, she doesn’t look at you with suspicion and doesn’t ask: “It's so expensive, why waste so much?” And even more so, she will not ask to give her money next time, “in order to buy what she needs herself,” - the holiday, surprise, emotions, the manifestation of love in the gift is important for her. Learn from children the ability to accept gifts - and you will certainly begin to give them.

Based on materials from ELLE.ru

Which man is better to start a serious relationship with? With a man who is so generous that he is able to buy his charming companion a gorgeous bouquet of flowers for his last money and take her to an expensive restaurant, but who then lives up to his salary on crackers, water and instant noodles? Or is it better to define as a life partner a tight-fisted peasant who thinks about the future, but scrupulously cherishes every penny? Whom to choose - mota or curmudgeon? Ideally, you don't need to go to extremes, but ...

But if Cupid brought you together with a tight-fisted representative of the stronger sex, whom you love with all your heart, then get ready to study specialized literature, interview your friends and read this article about how to teach a man to give gifts with or without it.

Why doesn't a man give gifts?

First, you need to answer the question of why some men are in no hurry to give gifts to their soulmates. And completely odious men generally consider it unfair that making presents is the prerogative of the stronger sex.

Of course, guys don't have to give gifts to their girls. But cute surprises with or without, as a rule, indicate that a man wants to do something pleasant to his beloved, wants to please her. Emancipated ladies believe that gifts in relationships are not the main thing. One could agree with this, but feminists often go to extremes and begin to either completely refuse male gifts, or they themselves begin to present their halves with surprises. But you need to understand that for a girl in a present from a man, it is not the financial moment that is important, but the presence of the desire and the opportunity to please the beloved man.

If a man does not give gifts, then ...

• He does not have great feelings for a woman. He just doesn't love her.

• He is immensely in love with himself. And his unwillingness to please his girlfriend with a cute present is only a consequence of his unwillingness to share what he has.

• He's an extremely mean guy. It is possible that such a man will be stingy not only in money, but also in emotions and feelings.

Distributing your "economist" into one of three categories, make allowances for the man's upbringing and his financial capabilities. And now we come close to the question of how how to get a man to give gifts.

It's no secret that there are dynamo women who spin all men for a variety of gifts. But how ethical is this behavior? If you barely met, that is, your relationship is in the initial stage of development, then the man may not like your pressure and he, frightened, will simply run away from you, dropping his slippers. It is necessary to wait for the moment when the relationship between you becomes close and trusting. Having made sure that the gentleman loves you and values ​​you, and does not make gifts solely out of his own stinginess, then in such a situation it is high time to show female wisdom, cunning and ingenuity. Use one of the methods below.

A hint is a delicate matter! Try to subtly hint to your beloved what you would like to receive from him on any holiday, for example, on March 8th. If your life partner is a sensitive nature, then there is no doubt that he will understand everything from the first word. However, most of the stronger sex do not understand transparent hints. If this is the case, when you have gotten yourself up to it, state your desires directly. For example, if a man does not give gifts and never took you to a restaurant, then say with a hint of going to a fashionable cafe: "Dear, I really want something tasty!". If a man leaves for a second, and then appears with ice cream from the nearest grocery store, then declare in plain text: “Honey, you have no idea! Friends told me that a new cafe has opened, serving delicious French dishes! Maybe let's go ?! " Quite frankly, such hints are not very effective. Therefore, there is no need to be upset if your attempt ends in failure. Better to use another option.

Envy is a motivating factor! If your favorite cheapskate is a narcissistic and overconfident man, then jealousy can be a motivating factor that will make him rush to the store and buy you a gift. For example, you can say to your beloved: “Darling, my husband gave my friend Sonya an amazing necklace. Today she bragged to everyone at work ... ". The text can be varied, the main thing is to arouse envy in your husband, hurt his pride!

Sincere tears! The sight of a crying woman is unbearable! Women's tears are the weakness of men, which can be used to achieve the desired result, in our case, a gift. For example, you can show your husband your sad mood all day. He, of course, will ask: "Honey, why are you sad?" As soon as this question sounded, immediately sigh sadly, try to squeeze out a couple of tears and babble: "Darling, it seems to me that you are indifferent to me ...". Please note that it is not necessary to pretend to be a meek lamb, i.e. you can throw a loud tantrum. It all depends on your character. Frightened by your hysteria, your husband will calm down and assure you of sincere love. It is at this moment that you can beg for a gift from a man. For some reason, it seems that he will not refuse you. However, keep in mind that this weapon, before which men are powerless, can be used extremely rarely (no more than three to four times a year). If you use tears very often to make a man make gifts, then he, in the end, will get used to your tantrums and will not react to them in the way you need.

Strictly prohibited!

God forbid you to turn to a man with a miserable look and with a request: “Sorry, dear, I'm strained with money. Please buy for me ... ". Do not show a man your poverty, because a poor woman can only cause pity in him, but not respect. If you nevertheless turned to a man with such a request, then do not be surprised that he gives you small gifts. Remember, luxury gifts are for gorgeous women!

Rejoice at every gift from a man, even if he presented you something wrong. Your disgruntled physiognomy is able to discourage the gentleman from the habit of giving you gifts.

So, as part of today's article, we talked about how to get a man to give gifts. They also told in great detail and sketched out an approximate plan of action in the event that a man does not give gifts. And at the end of the article, we will still return to what we talked about at the beginning. Do you need such a tight-fisted type? If the answer to the question is yes, then flag your hands and good luck in re-educating the "economist"!