Why do women impose themselves on men. Female obsession in relationships Men do not like obsession

Hello dear readers! The eternal question of the struggle between a man and a woman is who should take the initiative and call first. Today I want to talk about whether it is necessary to remind a man about himself, how to do it competently and not become another obsessive fan. In addition, we will talk with you about why the guys themselves do not dial the number and take the initiative.

Why doesn't the man call first?

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And now let's try to understand what prevents the guy from calling and reminding himself of himself. The first and fairly common reason is that he simply wasn't interested in you. Yes, it's hard to realize this, it's insulting and painful. But it happens that the girl simply did not like. And since he doesn’t know how to say it at ease, it’s easy. In this case, reminders of yourself will be extremely inappropriate.

Another option is that he liked you too much and now he is inflating his own price. Like, let her run after me and be afraid to lose. Is it worth it to connect your life with such a gentleman - it's up to you. But a man who cannot sincerely and directly say about his sympathy is no longer trustworthy.

He has a girlfriend, and your meeting was just a passing fad. In this case, there’s nothing to even think about and you shouldn’t remind yourself in any way at all. Even if you think to write him an angry SMS, express all your resentment, believe me, it's not worth it.

How to get him interested

But you can beautifully and correctly remind yourself. How? The most ancient way is to send him an SMS, which was supposedly intended for another. First, think carefully about what to write. Second, this method can only be used once. If you constantly send him such “erroneous” SMS, then the reception will not work.

Use social networks. Post your photos from various meetings where you are surrounded by young people, happy, contented, with sparkling eyes and a charming smile. There are no such photos? Arrange a walk with a friend and ask her to take some photos. He needs to see that your life is going on as usual, that you are not sitting at home waiting for his calls. This is a very powerful incentive for guys.

Don't answer his call once. Or don't reply to the message for a while. And then just say you were busy. In the article "How to Make Your Husband Jealous" you can find a huge number of similar tricks that will allow you.

Remember, it makes no sense to impose on a man. If he doesn’t call first, doesn’t write and doesn’t show initiative, then most likely you won’t have any relationship with him. A guy who really likes you will definitely find time to talk with you and invite you on the next date.

If you can’t sit still and are constantly reaching for the phone to dial the coveted number, then I have one simple solution for you: set yourself a goal - no more than one call every two / three days. And do not call more often, no matter how much you want to. Have patience, love and appreciate yourself. And then there will definitely be a boyfriend with whom you do not have to resort to such tricks in order to win his attention.

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What do you think men are most afraid of in a serious relationship? Why, after a great date, the gentleman disappears and does not make itself felt? Do you have any special tricks to get a guy interested?

No wonder they say - to keep, you need to let go.

Unfortunately, love is a feeling that not everyone submits to. Some women effortlessly make new acquaintances and fall in love with the opposite sex, and some, despite the natural female attractiveness, remain lonely from year to year. If you dream of a family, but new acquaintances again do not lead to anything serious, psychologists advise you to analyze your behavior and communication style with the opposite sex. Perhaps, involuntarily, you behave in such a way that men perceive you as too aggressive, or vice versa, too intrusive woman.

To make it easier for you to navigate the wilds of male preferences, psychologists have identified 10 things that men do not like in women..

So, what repels men in women

1. Obsessive desire to meet

Men love freedom. They will gladly put on strong fetters of love, but only if this happens involuntarily. If they see a woman in front of them, in whose eyes only an obsessive desire to conquer and tame is read, they are unlikely to want to continue their acquaintance. Therefore, despite your fatigue from loneliness, let go of this problem. When meeting a man, do not evaluate him solely as a potential husband and do not try to demonstrate all your best qualities at once. Be natural. Captivate with your wit, romance or charm.

2. Carelessness

When meeting a girl, a man subconsciously evaluates her as a potential caring wife and mother of his children. Untidy hair, wrinkled clothes and stale manicure will give the impression of you as an unclean person who will not be able to properly care for his family.

3. Angry look

Men want to see a friendly and good-natured wife next to them, ready at any moment to lend a shoulder for support. If you are used to sort things out in a raised voice, under any circumstances to prove your case and emphasize your own importance, he is unlikely to dream of living together with you.

4. Clothing

Very few men follow fashion and understand the peculiarities of women's style, but they pay attention to how harmonious a woman's outfit looks. It is unlikely that they will have a desire to continue acquaintance with a girl dressed in defiant, revealing or, conversely, unkempt clothes. While they will not be able to resist the beauty, who selects stylish and unobtrusive clothes, taking into account the peculiarities of her figure.

5. Modesty

Analyzing what men do not like in women, psychologists have added to this list also, it would seem, an outstanding feminine dignity - modesty. Modesty itself is undoubtedly an adornment, but its overabundance does not make us attractive in the eyes of the opposite sex. Men dream of a chosen one with a light character, next to whom you can relax. If the girl blushes over every ambiguous joke, the man will feel embarrassed.

6. Demonstration of your erudition

Of course, everyone dreams of a smart and educated partner. However, if you retell volumes of scientific books you read to a man and be surprised at the gaps in his knowledge, he will see you not as an object of passion, but as a strict teacher. Psychologists recommend, when communicating with a man, play along with him. Sincerely be surprised at everything he tells you, even if you already knew it in your first year at the institute. But at the same time, do not belittle your knowledge. Discuss your interests and hobbies with him, but do not make a cult out of this.

7. Flattery

When we flatter in order to make a compliment and thereby please a new acquaintance, we must take into account that a man can feel this lie and perceive it as some kind of trick. You should not lie to men, especially on trifles, because, having felt a lie, a man will stop believing in you in the future. Give a compliment only if it is sincere.

8. Excessive talkativeness

Women love to talk, that's a fact. However, on the first date, forget about this love and let your chosen one speak out. In addition to external attractiveness, housekeeping and skill in bed, a man wants his future wife to understand him. Therefore, in order to interest a man, listen to him carefully.

9. Accessibility

A man should not know about your past relationships and love failures. It doesn’t matter how many men you had before meeting your only one, but under no circumstances should you tell him about your past boyfriends. Also, your willingness to have sex with him on the first date can play a bad service in developing a relationship with a man you like. It is possible that passion has visited you and you are sure of your feelings, but a man can perceive such a hasty impulse as availability.

10. Women's Initiative

Men want to conquer, to be conquerors and hunters proud of their rare prey. However, if the prey itself goes into the hands, this destroys the sporting interest, making it less attractive. Women's initiative is good, but not at the first stages of acquaintance. At this time, try to trust your chosen one, gently pushing him to take action.

Having become acquainted with what repels men in women, the most important thing is not to fall into despair, but to calmly and carefully analyze your behavior. Perhaps the wisest advice that psychologists give is the advice to be natural. After all, we all want to be loved exactly as we really are.

As soon as a man appears in the life of an obsessive woman, she completely forgets about her girlfriends. No matter how often she has interacted with them up to this point - after she “targets” a member of the opposite sex, her contacts with loved ones almost completely stop. Needless to say, that daily calls, joint weekends and gatherings in a cafe, as before, are no longer out of the question? While it is girlfriends and communication with them that is the very “compass” that allows you not to “get lost” in a relationship and not dissolve in a partner.

2 She seeks to control him

For her, it is considered an absolute norm to read his messages at the moment when the phone falls into her hands. She does not see anything strange in demanding passwords from social networks from a man. She actually needs to master the situation, words and explanations are not enough for her. She wants to be everywhere and everywhere. Know everything and everyone. While it is on mutual trust that the strongest alliances are built.

3 She thinks "us" is more important than "me" and "he"

Such a woman literally from the first dates begins to “mumble”. Not “he thinks so”, but “we”! Not "I want", but "we want". Such a “forced inclusion” of a man in a relationship cannot go unnoticed. It would be quite natural if a representative of the strong half of humanity wants to throw off this "burdensome bondage" as soon as possible.

4 She's afraid of being abandoned

Such a woman constantly lives in fear. She fears that the person next to her will one day just pack up their things and leave. All her actions are aimed at keeping the one who, by chance, ended up in her “tenacious paws”. Needless to say, a man subconsciously captures the true motives of a woman. And therefore, she regards much of what she does not as sincere concern or spiritual impulse, but as a banal obsession.

5 She doesn't take hints

Men, talking about their experience of communicating with such women, say: they do not understand politeness and hints. If he does not respond to messages, always finds excuses not to meet and drops calls so as not to talk to her on the phone - she will still continue to “rush into battle”, finding new arguments and reasons for this. While in the world of men everything is outrageously simple - if he does not call, then he does not need it.

Some women believe that increased attention to a man once again proves feelings. However, the representatives of the stronger sex try to avoid obsessive women, and there are several reasons for this.

If a woman has strong feelings, she wants to spend more time with her loved one. But many of the fair sex do not realize that it is difficult for men to be in the company of an obsessive woman. Those who are among these ladies are given several signs at once.

She bothers a man with calls

The attention of a woman gives a man pleasure only if it is in moderation. If a woman calls for any reason, he may get tired of the constant calls of an annoying girlfriend. No need to constantly remind yourself and waste his and your time on useless conversations. Let a man miss you, and then over time he himself will want to call and chat with you.

She visits places too often to meet him.

Do not think that men cannot guess that sometimes random meetings with you do not happen at all by chance. If you've run into each other a couple of times in the same cafe or park, he probably won't suspect that you're looking for a date. But if such accidents happen too often, the man will soon realize that he is under your secret control. In this case, you will not only find yourself in an embarrassing situation, but will forever lose the opportunity to create a relationship with this man.

She rushes the development of relations

If after a week of dating you are trying to talk about your conscientious future, then nothing good will come of it. Unlike women, men do not like to rush things and try to live one day at a time. If they feel pressure and feel that someone is trying to limit their freedom, then they try to get rid of the obsessive companion as soon as possible.

She controls his every move

Most obsessive women give out this particular sign. They grab their lover's phone as soon as the screen lights up, they read his messages while he is in the shower, and generally try to always be near him. No man can put up with such control, because any person needs freedom. If you violate his personal space too often, you should not hope that he wants a serious relationship with you.