How to get rid of an oath not to marry. How vows, prohibitions and oaths affect our lives. Answers the priest Afanasy Gumerov, a resident of the Sretensky Monastery

How should you serve lunch? Well, how do they give dinner to God, so as not to do something? Should this be done in a church? and got the best answer

Answer from Ѐyrka Ivanov[guru]
Not all churches today practice vows ("promises"), although the Bible calls for it. I know about some people who made vows to God in the most difficult life situations. A vow is a holy and unbreakable promise to God when a person needs something really important from Him. Here are some examples to make you understand the meaning: A person dies of an incurable disease. He makes a vow to God that he will serve Him if God spares his life. And God saves, if this vow is pleasing to Him.
Often people made vows in the war: if I stay alive, I will build a church, etc.
We must not forget that there is a fine line between making a vow and trading with God. Everything is to the detriment of the wicked. Those who are honest with God even practice drawing lots, or answer according to the Bible. The wicked will turn it into divination. Therefore, most churches today do not practice or recommend this.

Answer from Ezhulya[guru]

Answer from Birkart[guru]

Answer from Vika[guru]

Answer from Agapi[guru]

Answer from Ekaterina Pasechnik[active]

Answer from Kseniya[guru]

Answer from Yovetyashka MaTHeD Koltunova[guru]

Answer from Maxim Medvedev[newbie]
And also a guru!

Answer from Chelovechina[guru]

They consist:

Answer from Delia Delia[guru]
God makes a VOW - a promise, an oath.
And LUNCH share with a friend))
Light a candle and read any prayer
And then - eradicate all the vices and imperfections in yourself

Answer from looking for god[guru]
dinner should preferably be served on time, on a plate with a blue border, placed on a tray along with a saucer and a cup and with a towel thrown over your hand ... salt, pepper, oil, sour cream, vinegar, mayonnaise - to taste as needed ...

Answer from Ezhulya[guru]
Dinner is eating. . vow - oath, promise

Answer from Birkart[guru]
before the crucifixion they give it, and no matter where - even at home, even in the church

Answer from Vika[guru]
any oath is not from God. He taught to say yes or no.
You can't be sure you'll never break your vows... .
There are certain vows, for example, "celibacy", then some priests... that is, people with a much stronger Spirit and faith.

Answer from Agapi[guru]
Vadim, probably all the same, a VOW?
No promises needed. And no oaths are required.
The Lord knows everything. Come, put a candle, remember your relatives about health and repose.
Mentally talk, the Lord is calling you to himself, your soul is crying.
Help of God! Guardian Angel!

Answer from Ekaterina Pasechnik[active]
Why should you make a vow? Is God calling you to this?

Answer from Kseniya[guru]
Are you talking about a meal? Or about promises? You don't need to make a promise. They can not be executed easily and for various reasons. They bring repentance to God and subsequently a person works on himself in order to correct his life ...

Answer from Yovetyashka MaTHeD Koltunova[guru]
To begin with, make a vow to yourself - to read a textbook of the Russian language. It will be better for you.)

Answer from Maxim Medvedev[newbie]
And also a guru!

Answer from Chelovechina[guru]
Indeed, there are vows in the Church. And the very first of these vows a person takes already at BAPTISM. These vows are called the baptismal vows.
They consist:
1. In renunciation of Satan, his deeds, serving him.
2. And accepting Christ - in accepting a holy pure life, following Christ, serving.
In principle - if you are a baptized person, then you have already given almost all the main CHRISTIAN vows. That is, all unnecessary, sinful, unrighteous things should already be left aside right from the time you were baptized.
If some things, for example, of an ascetic plan or, God forbid, sinful things are still present in your life, then there is such a thing as Confession.
Confession is the kind of thing that allows a person to RENEW their baptismal vows. In the event that a person was baptized in an unconscious state. Baptism took place simply mechanically as a rite - and a person in spirit has not heard of any REJECTION from Satan, and even more so does not know that now he is a Man of Holy Life, then you can just go through confession for your whole life. This will be the taking of the vow.

Do not swear at all, the Lord taught, but let your word be: yes, yes; no no; and what is more than that is from the evil one
(Matt. V, 37)

Perhaps, spiritual vows and oaths is one of the most important topics in the field of personal development and life success.
This problem, without exaggeration, concerns each of us.

Read the article and see for yourself.

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"Vicious circle" is a manifestation of vows

Have you noticed that some events or problems in your life are cyclical, ?

• You, without understanding why, continue to remain on the same(or similar) work? It can be difficult there, there is little money, but something seems to be holding you back. Do you understand that if you leave, as if you will do something bad, or betray some values?
• You can't get out troubled relationship with one person, or do you constantly encounter “the same” people (for example, male tyrants, or)?
• Before achieving a significant goal, you are something like slows down. Can panic, despair, disappointment in yourself begin - and the inevitable rollback back?
• You can't can't lose weight or solve other health and beauty problems?
• You can't make enough money. You are always spinning at the same income level, with minor changes.

You are probably familiar with something like this. And, at first glance, it is even difficult to say right away, what's stopping you finally break this circle and gain spiritual freedom.

I'll say it. it oaths and vows.

Each of us has them. We are aware of some of them, but we are not even aware of most of them.
They bind us with invisible fetters, deprive us of freedom of choice and action, force us to step on the same rake over and over again ...

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Today I will talk about what vows are and how they affect your life.

The impact of oaths and vows on your life

Sometime, in this or past lives, all vows were relevant. You made these commitments out of a spiritual impulse or emotion...

But now it's just information garbage, blocking your happiness and implementation. Judge for yourself.

1. Poverty

Finance is one of the most common areas in which people (especially spiritual ones) have many limitations.

Once upon a time, people could feel high energies only abandoning "everything mortal", that is, comfort, prosperity, abundance.

It doesn't work anymore. Now, on the contrary, is the time of unification of the material and spiritual worlds.

But the vows have remained since then.

Formulations:“Money is soulless. I give up wealth for the sake of closeness to God”, “I vow a poor and modest life”, “If I have money, I lose spirituality.” Variations: losing clairvoyance or healing gift, displeasing to God, not going to heaven, etc.

material and housing problems. The higher the growth of awareness and spirituality, the lower the prosperity.

2. Celibacy, loneliness

People, once abandoned family and social success for the sake of spiritual service, and through the ages bear the burden of such vows.

Formulations:“Relationships with men/women distract me from spirituality”, “I give up love/family for a spiritual gift”, “I must be celibate and celibate for the sake of being close to God.”

Signs of manifestation in your life: if you start to engage in spiritual or religious practices, personal growth, your relationship deteriorates.

Also, it is a form of "crown of celibacy". If you can't find a life partner for a long time, similar vows probably work.

3. Exhausting relationships

These are oaths opposite to the previous ones. You gave them not to God, but to a person (people), and fell into eternal karmic dependence on them.

Usually they are given in the wake of strong love, friendship or family feelings.

Formulations:“I give up my spiritual gift for the sake of love”, “I will love you forever”, “I will never part with you, we are forever connected”, “I will always save and support you”, “I am indebted to you” etc.

Signs of manifestation in your life: neurotic dependence on one person, members of his family, some acquaintances.

Depending on the wording of the vow, this could be

• exhausting love - you understand that the person does not suit you, but you cannot part with him;
• eternal "salvation" and service, for example, an adult daughter does not get married so as not to leave her mother alone;
• paradoxical strong feelings - from attachment to hatred - to some almost random people.

4. Violations in the field of beauty and health

As a rule, these are forms of spiritual sacrifice or the rejection of one's “mortal body”. Here, oaths take on a variety of forms.

Formulations:“I give up everything carnal for the sake of serving God”, “I must torture my body in order to be strong in spirit”, “I give my health in exchange for a spiritual gift”, “I accept this illness as payment for sins.”

“Bodily and sexual pleasure is sinful”, “If I am beautiful, I seduce men and become a sinner. I refuse to be beautiful,” etc.

Signs of manifestation in your life: various diseases and unpleasant bodily symptoms. A sharp deterioration in health at the beginning of spiritual practices. Rejection of sexuality and beauty.

Paradoxical weight gain usually refers to this group of vows. I have an example of working with a client with this vow: “I give up sexuality for spirituality –> being overweight makes me less desirable in the eyes of men and myself –> it helps me fulfill the vow and become more spiritual.”

5. Eternal service

These are the most insidious vows and oaths. Because, at first glance, they are perceived as very "bright and good", even ideological values.

As a result, a person falls into the trap of egregors, which he serves from life to life, or closed scenarios of behavior.

Formulations:“I swear to always fight evil”, “I swear to always defend justice”, “I vow eternal fidelity to Christ”, “I swear to always heal people”, “I promise to always fight the enemies of my homeland (faith, family, etc.)” .

Signs of manifestation in your life: an endless repetition of situations in which you can manifest the effect of a vow.

That is, evil will always be created around you. Or everyone around you will be treated unfairly. Or there will always be enemies to fight.

One who has taken an oath of professional service - "to always teach, heal others", etc. - forced to remain forever in this field of activity.

Usually, these oaths are also accompanied by the wording "to serve selflessly." In the end, you work like hell, getting almost nothing in return, exhausted at work and still living in poverty.

Religious and patriotic oaths bind you, your Soul to one egregor. Any attempts to go beyond it make you consider yourself a sinner or a traitor, or lead to destructive fanaticism.

These are just some of the types of spiritual oaths and vows that are ruining your life. In fact, alas, there are many more of them, and they take the most strange forms.

It is up to you whether to keep these vows or whether it is time to end them.

With a conscious, willful decision, you can abandon an unnecessary vow and replace it with a new positive affirmation.

Question: How to understand? In one place: swear by the name of the Lord. In another: do not swear at all.

The word "oath" is one of the strongest, because it implies absolute and unconditional fidelity to this word. When we read the Bible, we find that sworn promises were quite common. This is not surprising, because in those days there were no notaries or lawyers, people in many ways had to take each other's word for it. How to convince someone that you will keep your promise? Swear. And how to convince him so that he does not have even a shadow of a doubt? Swear on the most precious thing you have, right? “I swear on my children”, “I swear on my health and well-being” - not everyone will easily take such an oath, especially if they intend to break it.

However, what is the most precious thing for any believer, if not the name of his GOD? The peoples who lived around the Israelites swore by the names of their gods. And this was considered the most terrible oath. When the Almighty led the children of Jacob out of Egyptian slavery, He began to reorient their consciousness from the names of foreign gods to His name, helping them to understand that only He is the All-Powerful and True God. And He explained this truth to them in a language that they could well understand at that time. Here are 2 main passages on the subject:

Deuteronomy 6:13 Fear the Lord thy God, and serve Him alone, and swear by His name. for the Lord your God who is in your midst is a jealous God; lest the wrath of the Lord your God be kindled against you, and He destroy you from the face of the earth.

Deuteronomy 10:20 Fear the Lord your God [and] serve Him [alone], and cleave to Him and swear by His name: He is your praise and He is your God, who did with you those great and terrible [deeds], which your eyes have seen; seventy souls your fathers came into Egypt, and now the Lord your God has made you as numerous as the stars of heaven.

Reread them again, paying attention to the fact that the words about “swear by your name” are among other important commands:

fear God
- Serve God
- cling to God
- Swear by his name

From the first reading it may seem that God here teaches people to swear by His name, but in fact He teaches them quite differently. The general theme of these commands is this: put Me first and whatever you do, do it knowing that I am your Lord and no one else. Detach yourself from other people's names and cling to My name. If you really need to swear something to someone, then do not use the names of other gods, I allow you to use My name. It's "permission"! To consolidate this knowledge, this commandment, the Lord later, through the mouth of Joshua, will say:

Do not communicate with these (*heathen) peoples that are left between you, do not remember the name of their gods, do not swear by [them] and do not serve them and do not worship them ... (Joshua 23:7 and see Jer5: 7)

See the same wording? "don't worship, don't serve, don't swear" – i.e. do not consider them the main ones in your life, do not consider them as gods at all.

Heb.6:16 People swear by the highest, and an oath of proof ends their every dispute.

The Almighty taught His people that He is the "highest", and there is no other like Him. Therefore, if they want to swear by something "higher", then there is nothing higher than His name.

God's people used His name to take oaths, and the Lord did not mind. For example, Abraham demanded such an oath from his servant: “And swear to me by the Lord, the God of heaven and the God of the earth, that you will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I live ...” (Gen.24:3) Or Saul took a similar oath from David: "Swear to me therefore by the Lord that you will not uproot my offspring after me, and you will not destroy my name in my father's house" (1 Sam. 24:22). Even the pagan Rahab, who understood how important God is for the Israelites, took the same oath from the spies: “swear to me by the Lord that, as I did you mercy, so you will do mercy to my father’s house, and give me a sure sign ...” ( Joshua 2:12)

The Lord did not object to oaths given at the mention of His name, only as long as His people did not begin to swear in lies, i.e. not only did they not fulfill the oath, but from the very beginning they knew that they would not fulfill it.

The Almighty has always taught His people that once they have taken an oath, they must keep it. The breaking of an oath is on a par with such sins as fornication, homosexuality, bestiality, murder (1 Tim 1:10), and the punishment for it is severe:

Zech.5:3 He said to me, This is a curse that comes on the face of the whole earth; for everyone who steals will be destroyed, as it is written on one side, and everyone who swears falsely will be destroyed, as it is written on the other side. I brought him, says the Lord of hosts, and he will enter into the house of the thief and into the house of him who swears falsely by my name, and will remain in his house, and will destroy him, and his trees, and his stones.

Therefore, the law prescribes:

Do not swear a lie by my name, and do not dishonor the name of your God. I am the Lord. (Lev.19:12)

If anyone makes a vow to the Lord, or swears an oath, placing a vow on his soul, then he must not break his word, but must fulfill everything that came out of his mouth. (Num.30:3)

Pay special attention to the fact that there is no wording here like “if anyone swears by the name of the Lord”, but simply says “if anyone swears”, because it does not matter to God whether His name was used, it is important to Him that the oath was spoken at all , which means that the person who bears His name must fulfill it.

Is it easy to fulfill an oath? In order for a person to do this, it is necessary to have two main qualities: 1) loyalty to one's own word and 2) the ability to control the situation. For example, if I, knowing how to drive a car, swear to someone that I will never drive a car in my life, I can demonstrate loyalty, but can I control the situation? After all, if circumstances develop in such a way that only I can be the person who will deliver the dying child to the hospital in some kind of car, then I will find myself in an unpleasant situation: to break my oath and automatically break the concept of fidelity, or to let the child die. There are several stories in the Bible about how terrible things happened because of a thoughtless oath, read, for example, one of them in Mark 6:22-27.

When Jesus began His ministry, there was much debate among the teachers of God's people about how, by what, and when to swear, but there was no clear understanding that swearing is the most serious obligation that a person imposes on himself, and that God never commanded him to swear name, but simply allowed it to be done if necessary. Therefore, Jesus, correcting what was distorted and obscured, clarified the meaning of the command given in the Torah about oaths:

You also heard what was said of the ancients: do not break your oath, but fulfill your oaths before the Lord.--- and that's right, and that's how it should be. Jesus does not cancel the commandment here, but He graciously helps people to see that it would be better for them not to take any oaths at all --- And I say to you: do not swear at all: not by heaven, because it is the throne of God; nor the earth, for it is His footstool; nor Jerusalem, because it is the city of the great King; do not swear by your head, for you cannot make a single hair white or black. --Do you see the reason? Because you can't know what will happen to you tomorrow! Don't be presumptuous when you make serious commitments! After all, it is said that if you do not fulfill, then you will fall under condemnation (James 5:12).

In some verbal collisions, combinations of words, and in individual words, sometimes, something strange and even mystical is found. On the one hand, in the 21st century we have ceased to trust the word. Perhaps this was facilitated by the yellow press and the tales that overwhelmed the Internet, but the word means little these days. Some statements of Zhirinovsky, who today publicly says one thing, and tomorrow the exact opposite, are worth a lot.

Urka's phrase from the famous movie: "What can not be said in a joke conversation" has become volatile and is perceived as an excuse for any lie and nonsense. But, on the other hand, there are special words. For example, the amazing and strange word "I swear." The meaning and amplitude of this word is enormous. From everyday “I swear by my mother” to quite official “I swear to observe the Constitution when exercising the powers of the President ...” or, for example, the medical Hippocratic oath. Why? What is so special about this word?

Oath in everyday life

Indeed, why the same-root words "oath", "I swear", "I curse" even in the most ordinary, everyday life are filled with significant, even solemn content. We swear by the most precious: "parents", "children's lives", "all saints", "honor", etc. The word “oath”, as well as “faith”, “God”, “mother”, “father” are already at the genetic level connected in our minds with concepts so serious and significant that it is impossible to just, as they say, throw them to the wind. In Soviet, atheistic times, this phenomenon was understood and already in childhood we took an oath “to be faithful to the cause of Lenin and the Communist Party”, joining the pioneers, and an oath of allegiance to the Motherland, taking a military oath.

The history of the oath is calculated for thousands of years. Even among the ancients, this word played an important role. Let us recall at least the oath of the Horatian brothers to take revenge on their enemies, or to die, the oath of Oedipus, who swore to the people to find the murderer of King Laius, or the famous Hannibal oath to be an enemy of Rome to death. The oath ritual has incredibly passed through the centuries and has survived to this day. Moreover, not only in religion, but also in ordinary secular life. From the wedding oath of love between the bride and groom, the magical blood oath, the oath at knighthood, to the most modern, annual oath of allegiance to the Russian fleet by first-year students of the Moscow Academy of Water Transport. But, of course, an oath in religion is of particular importance.

Oath in Judaism

In the religious and ethical norms of Judaism, the oath served and still serves as a solemn fastening of the obligations of both individuals and society as a whole. In the Torah (Old Testament), an oath is associated with calling God to witness and willingly accept punishment from the Almighty in case of its violation. This created the impression that God was holding the promise. The court even recognized the oath as one of the forms of evidence and could release the defendant from the claim only on the basis of the oath. In religious circles, a false oath or its violation is considered one of the most serious mortal sins: "Yahweh will not spare the one who pronounces Him in vain ...".

In modern times, it became possible to free oneself from the curse, But this required the help of a rabbi or three members of the community. At the same time, the one who took the oath had to explain why he refuses the oath. Later, starting from the 17th century, the swearing of all participants in the trial became mandatory. At the same time, frightening and rather humiliating curses were pronounced for the Jews in case of violation of the oath: “If I lied, let the earth open and swallow me alive,” etc. Since the middle of the 19th century, in many European countries, these curses and rituals, which were humiliating for Jews, have been canceled. Only the words remained: "By the name of the God of Israel."

When taking an oath, religious Jews raise their right hand. Sometimes it was enough to raise your hand, which meant "I swear." They swore by “life” (it was indicated whose), “heaven”, “earth”, “Temple”, “Jerusalem”. The most indestructible and sacred was considered, and even today it is considered, an oath in the name of God.

Oath in Christianity

For Christians, the oath loses its meaning. In the Gospel of Matthew we read the words of Jesus Christ from the Sermon on the Mount: “But I say: do not swear at all. Neither heaven, because it is the throne of God, nor the earth, because it is His footstool, nor Jerusalem, because it is the city of the great King. There will be a word for you: "yes, yes" or "no, no." At the same time, conscience, which, according to Christians, is the voice of God inside a person, becomes a witness of a person’s loyalty to his word. In the New Testament, the words of the Apostle Paul are quoted: "I speak the truth in Christ, as my conscience testifies to me ...".

But there are also some contradictions. According to some Christian theologians and religious philosophers, this is not about the complete abolition of the oath, but only about the prohibition to swear by those specific concepts that Christ spoke about. Moreover, further in the New Testament we read: "The angel raised his hand to heaven and swore by Him who lives forever and ever." The oath-giving was followed by Christians and is still followed by both priests and cathedrals of different years. In many Christian countries, those who testify in court or take the oath of office as head of state swear by placing their hand on the Bible.

Oath in Islam

Muslims can swear, but only in the name of Allah. Oaths "by the life of the mother", "by one's own life", "by the life of children" and others of this kind are undesirable. There are three types of oaths among Muslims: empty, false and valid. An empty oath used in conversation is nothing more than a figure of speech and, according to Islamic theologians, it is best to avoid it. A false oath, especially a deliberately false one, is, as in other religions, one of the greatest sins. A valid oath is usually accompanied by the words "I swear by Allah" or "I swear by the One who disposes of human souls." Failure to fulfill such an oath requires not only repentance, but also atonement. And redemption is of two types. Either feed 10 beggars (you can also feed one beggar for 10 days), or a three-day fast. But there is one caveat. If the one who took the oath ended it with the words “... if Allah wills,” then failure to fulfill it does not matter.

Oath in Buddhism

Among the followers of the Buddha (Buddhism, by the way, is not so much a religion as a philosophy), an oath or vow is also of great importance. Of particular interest are two oaths. Bodhisattva Oath - Buddhists attained supreme enlightenment. They vow to take on the burden of human suffering, and the oath of those who embark on the path of the Buddha is to free their own consciousness from evil, envy, aggression and other bad qualities.

Among the Buddhist oaths there are those that you will not find in other religions. I especially remember the oath to strive with boundless peace and the oath to become an angel after death. - guardian for their children and grandchildren. There is also an oath never to take any oath. When this oath is taken, all other oaths are considered invalid.

Afterword

I believe in God. I believe in a higher mind. I believe in the sacred semantic content of some words and, especially, the word "oath". It is enough to recall the single-root word "curse" to be convinced of this. The family curse of the Kennedy clan, in which, for the sins of the robber Patrick Kennedy, who lived in the 19th century, they died and are still dying to this day as a result of murders, suicides and various air and car accidents members of this famous family, cannot be a coincidence.

The word "oath", like other words of the same root with it, must be pronounced carefully, not forgetting the possible consequences. Human thought, expressed in a word, is not an empty shaking of the air. Isn't this what folk wisdom says: "Silence is golden?"

Lev Madorsky

What is an oath and why can't you swear?

Priest Afanasy Gumerov, a resident of the Sretensky Monastery, answers:

An oath is an assurance to another of the truth of what is said or done. In the Hebrew text of the Bible, two words are used: shevua (Gen. 21:31) and ala (26:28). The one who swore called on God to be a witness to what he was saying (Deut. 10:1-22). This custom was enshrined in the Law of Moses: Fear the Lord thy God, and serve Him alone, and cleave unto Him, and swear by His name"(Deut. 10.20). The sacred books of the Old Testament contain many examples of establishing agreements with the help of an oath.

"And the time came for Israel to die, and he called his son Joseph, and said: if I found favor in your eyes, put your hand on my thigh (thigh) and swear that you will show me mercy ..."(Gen. 47:29)". " And Moses swore that day and said: "the ground on which your foot has walked..."(Joshua 14:9)." David swore and said: your father knows well..." (1 Sam. 20:3). “The king will rejoice in God; everyone who swears by Him will be praised, for the mouth that speaks falsehood will be shut up."(Ps. 62:12). The places cited are enough to see that in itself this custom of taking an oath did not contain anything sinful. The Savior in the Sermon on the Mount abolished this Old Testament rite, because he gave a new law - spiritual. Now he is a witness of faithfulness in the fulfillment of what has been said is conscience (glory. conscience, co-messenger) - the voice of God in man. According to the apostle: " I speak the truth in Christ, I do not lie, my conscience testifies to me in the Holy Spirit"(Rom.9.1). Let us cite other places from the Epistles of St. Apostle Paul:" God is my witness, whom I serve with my spirit in the gospel of His Son, that I remember you without ceasing."(Rom.1.9)," I call on God as a witness against my soul, that, sparing you, I have not come to Corinth until now."(2 Corinthians 1:23)," The God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, blessed forever, knows that I do not lie"(2 Cor. 11:31)," God is my witness that I love you all with the love of Jesus Christ"(Phil. 1:8), " For we never had before you any words of flattery, as you know, or forms of self-interest: God is my witness!"(1 Thessalonians 2:5)." And the Angel whom I saw standing on the sea and on the land, raised his hand to heaven and swore by Him who lives forever and ever, who created the heavens and all that is in it, the earth and all that is in it, and the sea and all that is in it, that there will be no more time."(Rev. 10:5-6). Jesus Christ in words" don't swear"abolished a specific Old Testament rite, for the conscience becomes a witness to the fidelity of a word or deed.